My sister just purchased her wedding dress, while I am in search for a second one (that's my original above). My husband and I are renewing our vows this June- so to say I have ivory, lace, and tulle on the brain is an understatement. I thought I would fill you in on what’s most important when trying on gowns and give you a few images of inspiration from my current crush: BHLDN. Let’s get to it…
I know that finding “the dress” can definitely be overwhelming, and everyone from The Knot to Martha Stewart has provided you with a list of what you should be doing. So definitely take this with a grain of salt but remember I have been on both sides, so my take on it might be a bit different.
My number one rule is to always HAVE FUN. This is supposed to be the best day of your life and no matter what budget, size, or opinions come your way- never lose sight of why you are doing this in the first place… love. So please, take in every moment and enjoy being catered to at the stores. Trust me when I tell you- it all works out the way it’s supposed to, so don’t stress out.
Secondly, do NOT feel pressure to purchase a gown because of a discounted price. If you are hesitant or feeling some anxiety it’s probably not the right one, or the right time. I know hearing 30% off a $2000 gown is significant but the most important thing is that you are happy. If you go over budget and you aren’t in love with the gown- buyer’s remorse will inevitably follow. And I don’t want that for you- I want pure bliss!
Third, try on every possible silhouette at your first two stops. I got lucky and the style I loved (fit and flare) worked on my body and I stuck with that moving forward. But many times, even with engagement rings, what we think we love via tear sheets may not be what we love once we look in the mirror or try it on. So take some extra time to see what works best and makes you feel the most beautiful.
Number four, and I know this is a tough one at times, but get a PHOTO of yourself before you make a purchase. Many retailers do not allow this during appointments, but have your best friend sneak some in. I can’t explain the why behind this, but the mirror vs. the lens can tell different stories on a person. Sometimes the details you most admire become hidden or the color/ style looks less flattering. It’s one less thing to worry about and an additional check mark on a big purchase.
Lastly, silence the expectations or wants of everyone else around you. For some reason the theme, the guest list, the dress, the flowers- it all ends up becoming a group discussion. And although I know we all have some assistance one way or another when we get married- the day itself is all about YOU. No matter who pays for what, take opinions and criticism lightly. This is about you and your significant other- and if you want to stand out in hot pink, get blinged out, or throw on your cowboy boots- I hope you do it!
Here’s to having fun, less stress, no regrets, feeling beautiful, and lots of love…
PS: If you haven’t yet followed BHLDN on social media or visited their website- you need to. They are an extended family to Anthropologie and I am currently obsessed with the entire collection. Their aesthetic is vintage inspired elegance with a touch of glamour to it, and yes- it’s as amazing as it sounds. Below are a few images that I borrowed from them but I am probably not doing it justice. Please head over to their site and check it out. You will not be sorry...
Photography: (1) Merchant Inspired, LLC (2, 3, 4) BHLDN
